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How to Use Your Feelings

Feel the Possibilities. Have you sat with that phrase and “felt into” what it means? There is an infinite wealth of possibilities in front of you … an absolute and inconceivable multitude! You are capable of so many things – any number of them could be in your grasp with the slightest amount of effort.

Yet our mere human minds can’t always comprehend that. You probably disagreed or doubted that statement and I know why. Because our brains were made to process data and the most compelling data is that which we know to be true through experience. So quite understandably, my saying you could easily do a number of other things with your life may strike you as next to impossible.

Don’t fret though, there is good news: where our minds struggle to go, our emotions can navigate with ease because they are much more independent from logic. No doubt you have some experience with that; perhaps you loved someone you knew was bad for you but couldn’t help it. Or maybe you met someone for the first time and got a really bad feeling about them for no particular reason.

With the knowledge that emotions are independent of our logical mind, let me continue by telling you there’s two pieces needed to fully use your feelings to help you achieve what you want. (See how I’m bringing this back to your 2012 goals? I’m slick like that!)

First, you need to be able to identify how you feel about it now. That’s your baseline. Meaning, if you wanted to find your dream job this year and here you are at the middle mark wondering how you can do in the next six months what you haven’t made a dent on in the last six months, you need to know if that results in your feeling overwhelmed, disappointed, ashamed, frustrated, etc. That’s your BASE STATE OF EMOTION … where you are now.

Second, you need to be able to clearly feel how you want to feel once the object of your desire has been attained. Continuing with the example of moving to your dream job, which might result in feelings of accomplishment, peace, passion, aliveness, expertise, contribution, etc. That’s your END STATE OF EMOTION … where you want to be.

Once you have these two states identified, then it’s just a matter of doing whatever it takes to feel into your end state of emotion. I should note here it doesn’t have to be one giant leap; you can baby step your way up there (that’s why I had you identify your Base State of Emotion). After all, if you’re currently at a dead end job feeling ignored and miserable every day, then it’d be pretty tough to jump to feeling on top of your game and admired for your unique talents. However, you could use my mantra of taking baby steps and find a way to move from feeling despair to angry to doubtful to hopeful to optimistic to excited. You don’t have to leap all at once, especially since that won’t likely feel authentic and therefore won’t last. Instead, celebrate each solid step forward and you’ll reach your desired End State of Emotion before you know it!

Do you see how simple that was? Isn’t that awesome? I love simplicity!

Now let’s get back to how you can make these emotional shifts. As always, there’s a variety of ways to do it, so I”m going to give you some broad stroke suggestions.

  • State your intention. (e.g., If I want to move from anger to doubt, I might say to myself “I intend to let go of my anger and experience doubtfulness today.)
  • Think of something else you’ve experienced that conjures up the feeling you’re after. (e.g., If I want to feel hopeful, I might relive the time when I’d fallen in love with someone I was dating … remember how I clung to all the signs he’d give me by being thoughtful … and reinforce that I did in fact end up with said love.)
  • Delight in a daydream. (e.g., If I want to feel excited, I might imagine that when I have my dream job, I imagine I’ll start my day with a skip in my step, singing a happy tune while I fix breakfast, and everyone at work smiles back at me in the halls.)
  • Listen to music that matches the emotion. (e.g., If I want to feel optimistic, I might listen to Natasha Bedingfield’s song, “Unwritten.”)

Remember, your feelings are independent of your logic – and they are incredibly powerful. It has been said that 17 seconds of feeling a positive emotion deeply can counterbalance the negative thoughts or limitations of our minds.

Let me boil the ocean for you on this: emotions can shift your mood, which shifts your energy, which shifts your thoughts, which shifts your perception, which shifts your experiences … which shifts it all over again! As the momentum grows, things will get incrementally better and the object of your desire will get closer and closer. I’ve experienced this many times in my life and know first hand how truly exciting it is!

I love that when our mind is presenting us with all the rational reasons something won’t work and we are struggling to manage our mindset, we can always retreat to our emotions and let them carry us through. We can put our logic aside, take a well-deserved break from all the data coming at us like a 30 foot wave, take a few minutes to figure out our Base State and End State of Emotions, then relax into playing with our feelings. Ahhhhhhhh :D

To make it even easier, here’s a worksheet that provides six categories of increasingly better feelings so you can “baby step” it up one level at a time until you’re able to bask in your End State for awhile.

Here’s to your feelings … to your possibilities … to YOU feeling your own possibilities!


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How to Use Your Feelings by Sara Russell of Feel the Possibilities
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