Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

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What is coaching?

Why should I hire a coach and what are the benefits?

Why should I hire you as my coach?

What is the difference between Self-improvement and Self-discovery?

What is the difference between counseling and coaching?

Can you work with people undergoing counseling?

Can we speak prior to purchasing anything?

What happens if we finish before we use all my coaching sessions?

What are your payment terms?

Why do you coach?

Personal or life coaching is becoming more and more recognized in the UK, US and the rest of the world. Originally coaches where only associated with sportsmen and athletes and then the business coach arrived. Over recent years individuals from all walks of life have realized the many advantages of having a personal coach and it has become increasingly common for corporate executives and upper management to have personal coaches.

Observe anyone at the top of their game, chances are they’ve all had valuable guidance and direction, and more often than not, it comes in the form of a coach. They certainly don’t see that asking for some help at times is a form of weakness, as some parts of society would have us believe. I believe that it is the opposite and people should be proud of themselves for being self-assured and confident enough to ask for help when they feel it is appropriate.

The oxford English dictionary defines a life coach as “a person who is employed by somebody to give them advice about how to achieve the things they want in their life and work”. Coaching is an ongoing, professional and confidential service designed to enhance and improve the client life. A coach provides the client with support, guidance, feedback, accountability and insights while they undertake some kind of chosen transition in their life. The coach comes from a unique independent position and an outside vantage point. An alliance is formed to promote clarity of desires, action, momentum and the client’s personal growth.

The coach believes that all the answers to the client’s challenges are within them and works with the client to discover and implement their own solutions. Coaching is about moving forward and not dwelling on the past. This powerful alliance enables the client to give up who they are for who they want to become. “Find something you love to do and you’ll never have to work a day in your life.”– Harvey Mackay

None of us where born with a ‘How to live a perfectly happy and fulfilled life’ manual. We all do the best we can with what we have, to write our own manual. It seems we are basically left on our own to figure out the best way to get the most we can out of life. There are times in our lives when we can find this overwhelming. Or we know what we what to achieve but we just can’t seem to figure out how to go about it.

I tend to work with people that have experienced plenty of success in their lives, but are struggling now because their previous successes have defined them in a limited way and they don’t have the mindset yet to breakthrough to the next place they want to be. Whatever change you wish to make in your life, it’s because you believe it will make you happier – and how can we put a price on that?

When we go through significant changes in our lives, be that the start or end of a career, relationship, lifestyle, etc. – we move into a space that is brand new to us.  It’s both exciting and terrifying all at the same time…we want it and fear it.  Needless to say, these opposing thoughts and feelings can make it challenging to sort everything on our own (otherwise, you would’ve already achieved what you want).

A coach helps you connect with the part of you that’s gotten buried in all the other success you’ve had.  You are able to move through the self-discovery phase at a much faster pace – uncovering what’s important to you, what you are passionate about, what fears are blocking you and how to mitigate them so that you can move forward and not stall out.  Remember, while you are very close to the situation, your coach is not – so it is their job is to:

  • Provide an objective external view of the situation (sometimes we can’t see the forest through the trees and rarely do we give ourselves full credit for what we are capable of).
  • Harness your power through partnership – as two heads are always better than one and a coach can hold the vision you establish even when you can’t.
  • Give you a confidential sounding board to clarify what it is your really want – this is usually different than what your family or friends would expect and can sometimes even be different from what you first thought you wanted.
    Motivate you to take action – if you don’t action to change something nothing with change! The sooner you take action the sooner you get to where you want to be in your life.
  • Be your cheerleader – the one who believes in you, who will be with you to hear, believe in, encourage, guide and support you along the journey.
    Hold you accountable for what you said you wanted to do – not what others’ think you should do.
  • Keep you focused – after all, It can be so easy to let life get in the way and sidetracked you from your desires.
  • Develop tools and strategies to help you now and in the future even long after the coaching is over to make the changes you want in your life.
  • Encourage you to enjoy the process – there is no law that says you can’t have some fun on the way to change and quite frankly, feeling good seems to expedite the good stuff that heads your way!

  • The above are not in any particular order and I am sure there are others but these are the main one’s that should give you a reasonable appreciation for the benefits of coaching. This is not to say that you could not do it on your own, but with a coach you don’t have to do it alone. The choice is totally yours and down to personal preference.

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    Good question and you are the only one who can answer it. If you want to work with a coach committed 100% to your success, who is a generous listener, selective about the clients they work with and who believes having fun along the way is paramount, I am the coach for you.

    I don’t believe the only way to move forward and take action is by strategic plans, settings goals and making to-do lists. Don’t get me wrong there is a time and place for these tools. Just as there are times when these tools are not so helpful for example if you are a chronic worrier, then setting goals probably won’t help you. For me it’s initially more about working on a deeper level by coming to understand your values, beliefs and the thought processes that are stopping you attaining your desires. It’s about your mindset and making a shift in it to free you to move forward. My aim is to give people tools and the understanding to make the changes they want to their life, both now and in the future, long after the coaching is over.

    To help you make an informed choice about your next move, I offer a completely free 45-minute discovery session where we can have a casual conversation (I love hearing what people are up to!).  I actually recommend you speak to a few coaches before making a decision, as everyone is slightly different.  I’d be happy to offer a few recommendations of people I’ve worked with if you aren’t sure of your options.
    So what are you waiting for?

    There’s nothing to lose except time.  Click here to set up your Free Discovery Session today and let’s get started!

    There is a fundamental difference between self-improvement and self-discovery. Self-improvement comes from the premise that you are incomplete and need to fix something about yourself. As Alan Cohen puts it ,“Wholeness, from the perspective of self-improvement, is an ideal towards which we continually strive, but never actually reach.  Self-discovery, on the other hand, assumes that you are already whole, and your purpose is to know and express more of who you are. The seed of everything you can and will be, lie within you now. To manifest your potential, shift your attention from fixing what is broken, to letting go of limiting beliefs that cloud your vision of your innate perfection.” I come from the perspective that we are not broken, simply on a path to discover our authentic self.

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    What is the difference between counseling and coaching?

    Even though counseling and coaching are relationship based and both create a space in which clients can talk about their issues, the focus of each is different. They do not have the same intent and should not be confused as substitutes for each other. A key difference is that counseling deals primarily with helping people overcome problems whereas coaching is concerned with enhancing performance. Counseling tends to focus on issues of healing and unresolved psychological issues of the past. Coaching on the other hand, begins with the present and assists clients to clarify and set a clear picture of the desires they wish to achieve in the future and works with them on how to achieve their desires. On occasion the past may be discussed only in the context of discovering what is blocking the client from moving forward.

    In general coaching clients choose to work with a coach because they want to, not because they need to. The focus is on movement forward and clients are accountable to the coach far more so than to a counselor. In general the coaching approach is more relaxed, a less formal relationship especially regarding how sessions are undertaken and where e.g. a session maybe held at a cafe over a coffee. Coaching can be described as ‘having a skilled friendship’. In general there is a difference in perception from the client’s point of view between having a coach or counselor. A client is far more likely to admit they know a coach if they meet them out and about than a counselor.

    Absolutely I can, on the clear understanding that if you are currently in counseling or otherwise under the care of a mental health professional, you have consulted with this person regarding the advisability of working with a coach and that this person is aware of your decision to proceed with the coaching partnership.

    Absolutely, that is my preference and why I offer a free 45-minute Discovery Session. The Discovery session is all about giving us the opportunity to get a sense of each others’ communication style and personality, to discuss what it is that you wish to concentrate your efforts on and ultimately to determine whether or not we’d be a good fit to work together.

    Even when people buy coaching for family and friends, I like to speak with the client first to make sure that it’s going to be right for them.

    If you get results sooner than you expect and you have any sessions remaining, you have 2 choices:

    1. You can bank the session or sessions in case you need a bit of help in the future. This is what most people tend to do.
    2. You can donate the sessions to someone that can’t afford Life Coaching, either to someone you know or to my scholarship program.

    Full payment or the appropriate first payment (if a payment plan is offered) for Feel The Possibilities is due prior to the commencement of coaching or any class or product. The preferred method of payment is PayPal. Please note that PayPal does offer the ability to pay by credit card even without a PayPal account.

    If you book a course of sessions and you are not completely satisfied and wanting to continue after the first session, I will offer a 100% refund on all remaining sessions, less a $50 administrative fee.

    For as long as I can remember, I have loved helping people find the light bulb that made all the pieces they were working with come together seamlessly.  I am energized and fulfilled by it…just can’t imagine doing anything else.

    That reminds me of a time when someone asked me what my mission in life was.  That can be a daunting question, so I was surprised when my answer came quickly: “To eliminate the word powerlessness from our vocabulary.”   Coaching helps me do that because the people I help end up assisting in my mission by being great examples of what is possible for others to be inspired by.